It was on a wednesday evening, I hurriedly rushed down from Surulere to Onike to see a friend. The appointed time was for 7pm and as at 6:45pm I was stuck in traffic at Ojuelegba. "Oh no" I sed to my self as I pondered on how to cut corners and beat the traffic. This happened to be one of the few days I was glad I didn't have a car yet (its easier to get-out of d bus and find ur square root than outta ur car)
I'm a man that loves being prompt but this day it all seemed like I was gonna be late. Fortunately for me I got to the rendezvous spot for 7:15 and she wasn't there yet, so I settled down and freshened up for another 5mins before I called her to ask where she was and also "claimed" to have been waiting since 7pm ( u knw as e dey go na).
10-15 mins after, the lady waltzed in and kudnt even apologize for supposedly coming 35mins late bt then as a cool guy that I am,I shenked it and faced d hangout (which she tagged a "date" later into it,we wud get there). Placed orders for 2sharwamas and drinks that cost me a couple of thousands (felt like santa this day, so I made it my treat) as we waited for our chow, we chatted away about old times and all.
When the chow arrived, I started eating almost immediately while she was still forming one or two things (well dts her bizwax....a nigga gotta eat mehn esp wen I'm paying). Mid-way into the chow, the lady complained that her drink wasn't enough for her and she wanted another one. Unfortunately for me I had just N50 in my wallet (then it dawned on me that I ddnt keep tabs on my money given the fact that I hung out with my friends that same afternoon).
Feeling somehow, I jokingly told her I had no money again that she kud eida buy the drink herself or take my atm and use it someplace else (knowing there was no atm around). Only for this chic to start laughing and calling me names (this is when I got to know dt it was a "date" not a "hangout").
Even tho she took money (vex money) from her purse and bought herself some water, she never stopped lamenting on how stingy I was and bla bla. I tried explaining that it was out of my carelessness that I didn't check my wallet before coming moreover I was in a hurry.....o boy dis chic no wan know o, so I kept quiet and let her say all she had to say ( dis girl bin dey remind me of tins wey happen almost 4yrs ago....wz like TF).
As she bickered on, I couldn't help but shake my head in utter disbelief (I wudnt have tot she would do that, we were friends for say 4yrs and she cn act like a jerk and ruin our hangout cos of N100)....mehn people need training.
Nywyz I dnt wanna say this story again cos tokin about it infuriates me actually but then what would be the rationale behind the "many yarns"?
-The thing is people should learn to give others the benefit of the doubt. Don't just conclude based on what it appears to be and react forthwith....try to chill and view it from other lenses, ud b surprised its not what it looked like.
-Another thing to watch out for is planning, whenever you have a rendezvous of any sort, endeavour to map out ur itinerary and ensure u r set well before you set out. Try to leave home early enough so u can get there in good time (that way u dnt make sloppy decisions).
-Always state in clear terms the purpose of a rendezvous beit hangout, date, meeting or what-have-you. Ud b surprised how the nomenclature of the rendezvous could shape a person's outlook and reaction in such a rendezvous. (See the case study above)
-Never ever complain/nag during a rendezvous beit a hangout or a date, leave the bickering for the after date. Just go with the flow, enjoy it and act like everything issokay. Don't ruin a perfect time out cos of petty issues, some guys like me wud neva hangout wit u again.
-Be grateful always no matter the magnitude of what was done (big or small). U don't know how hard d person tried to please u, don't write anything off cos u wernt pleased. Its in poor taste actually.
At this point, u shud be able to spot other lessons in the story and learn from them (u got a 21st century intelligent mind remember!).
Thanks for reading and Happy 2013 mehn *fanfare*
I'm a man that loves being prompt but this day it all seemed like I was gonna be late. Fortunately for me I got to the rendezvous spot for 7:15 and she wasn't there yet, so I settled down and freshened up for another 5mins before I called her to ask where she was and also "claimed" to have been waiting since 7pm ( u knw as e dey go na).
10-15 mins after, the lady waltzed in and kudnt even apologize for supposedly coming 35mins late bt then as a cool guy that I am,I shenked it and faced d hangout (which she tagged a "date" later into it,we wud get there). Placed orders for 2sharwamas and drinks that cost me a couple of thousands (felt like santa this day, so I made it my treat) as we waited for our chow, we chatted away about old times and all.
When the chow arrived, I started eating almost immediately while she was still forming one or two things (well dts her bizwax....a nigga gotta eat mehn esp wen I'm paying). Mid-way into the chow, the lady complained that her drink wasn't enough for her and she wanted another one. Unfortunately for me I had just N50 in my wallet (then it dawned on me that I ddnt keep tabs on my money given the fact that I hung out with my friends that same afternoon).
Feeling somehow, I jokingly told her I had no money again that she kud eida buy the drink herself or take my atm and use it someplace else (knowing there was no atm around). Only for this chic to start laughing and calling me names (this is when I got to know dt it was a "date" not a "hangout").
Even tho she took money (vex money) from her purse and bought herself some water, she never stopped lamenting on how stingy I was and bla bla. I tried explaining that it was out of my carelessness that I didn't check my wallet before coming moreover I was in a hurry.....o boy dis chic no wan know o, so I kept quiet and let her say all she had to say ( dis girl bin dey remind me of tins wey happen almost 4yrs ago....wz like TF).
As she bickered on, I couldn't help but shake my head in utter disbelief (I wudnt have tot she would do that, we were friends for say 4yrs and she cn act like a jerk and ruin our hangout cos of N100)....mehn people need training.
Nywyz I dnt wanna say this story again cos tokin about it infuriates me actually but then what would be the rationale behind the "many yarns"?
-The thing is people should learn to give others the benefit of the doubt. Don't just conclude based on what it appears to be and react forthwith....try to chill and view it from other lenses, ud b surprised its not what it looked like.
-Another thing to watch out for is planning, whenever you have a rendezvous of any sort, endeavour to map out ur itinerary and ensure u r set well before you set out. Try to leave home early enough so u can get there in good time (that way u dnt make sloppy decisions).
-Always state in clear terms the purpose of a rendezvous beit hangout, date, meeting or what-have-you. Ud b surprised how the nomenclature of the rendezvous could shape a person's outlook and reaction in such a rendezvous. (See the case study above)
-Never ever complain/nag during a rendezvous beit a hangout or a date, leave the bickering for the after date. Just go with the flow, enjoy it and act like everything issokay. Don't ruin a perfect time out cos of petty issues, some guys like me wud neva hangout wit u again.
-Be grateful always no matter the magnitude of what was done (big or small). U don't know how hard d person tried to please u, don't write anything off cos u wernt pleased. Its in poor taste actually.
At this point, u shud be able to spot other lessons in the story and learn from them (u got a 21st century intelligent mind remember!).
Thanks for reading and Happy 2013 mehn *fanfare*
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